There are many reasons why parents are the best clients, but the number one reason is because they have a determination to change like no other.
When you become a parent, your life turns up side down. What you thought was important to you before, is not anymore. Your values and priorities completely change. This change comes whether you want to or not. When you become a parent, you do everything you can to not screw up this little thing, that has now become your identity. There is a passion to learn and grow that you didn’t have before. Your children become your motivator to do and be better.
This is why I love working with parents.
For me, it was clear. Everything changed when I became a parent. Everything, I thought, I knew before was gone. I was determined to do and be better. FIrst, I needed to take responsibility for my actions. Then, I needed to find out how to heal my past. Finally, I needed to understand how I could become the best version of myself, so I could help my children become the best version of themselves. I was determined to not repeat my parents mistakes. Needless to say, I was determined to be the best parent I could be.
Having children was your choice
Your child didn’t ask to be born. You chose to have this little baby. So, in my book, you owe it to this little human being to do the very best you can.
And it is not easy. Any parent will tell you: parenting is the hardest job in the world. And to get it right is even harder. Every parent does the best they know how to. In fairness, no-one puts children in the world and says: I’m going to be a bad parent. We all do the best that we can.
Parenting is the hardest job in the worldAnne Louise
Becoming a cycle breaker and wanting to do better than your parents is the most courageous thing to do. And remember this is not about blame. It is about healing. It is about appreciating that we live in a time when knowledge is readily available and access to coaching is out there. This wasn’t available to my parents, as it is today. My parents used to say to me that I didn’t come with a manual. Today, no-one has that excuse. There is a manual now. You can become a better parent, if you decide to be.
It’s your choice
Coaching is about choice. It’s about becoming aware and choosing who and what you want to become. After becoming a parent, everything is so different and it is therefore important to reevaluate who you are and what you want. Coaching does that for you. I help my clients re-discover who they are. They find out which parts need healing and they find out exactly who and what they want to be. They find an awareness about their life and choose which parts they want to pass onto their children.
The best (and worst) thing about being a parent is that your children trigger you constantly. Children know exactly which buttons to push to make you explode. They also remind you of all the things you didn’t get when you were growing up and it’s infuriating! BUT it’s also an opportunity for you to grow. It’s an opportunity for you to look inside and find out what parts of you need healing.
Become a better parent
There is plenty of things you can do to become a better parent. But the first thing you need to do is to look at yourself. Heal yourself first. Become a great version of yourself first. Only thereafter can you start incorporating your partner and children into your healing. But it always starts with you.
Your child didn’t chose to be born. You did. Therefore, you owe your child, to become the best version of yourself, so you can become the best parent for this child. Healing starts with you.
Are you ready to heal and create a powerful future? I invite you to book a free Get Real session to find out where you need to get real in your life. Together, we find out what you need to heal and make a plan for you to become the best version of yourself. Book your slot today!