You want to lose weight. You decide that tomorrow you will start eating healthy and start exercising. You promise yourself that this time you will stick to it. Finally, you decide not to tell anyone about it. Because “what if I fail…”
Does this sound familiar?
It certainly does to me. I have lain in bed Sunday evening vowing to myself that tomorrow will be the day I will change my life! But I also don’t want to tell anyone about it. I imagine 6 months down the road, showing my new body off to friends and family who are amazed. How did I do that? I’d tell them about all the healthy foods and exercise I had done etc. etc.
Then next day I get up and I live my life exactly as I have until now – no change what so ever!
Why? Why do we try to change our life by ourselves and keep it a secret?
Because we are afraid of failure!
If I didn’t tell anyone about my weight loss challenges then I don’t have to be accountable to anyone!
Now, I have learnt! I have learnt that this does not work. Keeping it to yourself does not work! I need support and you need support!
We are trying to change our life! Not just our shoes or bag. No, our freaking LIFE! That’s a big deal!
Losing weight is not about going on a diet and then returning to old habits when you are done. Losing weight happens when you start to change your life. The weight should stay off; therefore your new habits should stay on.
Please don’t lose weight in secret. Chances are if you want to do it in secret, then there are probably some other issues that you need to work around first. Issues that are perhaps more important than the extra weight you are carrying.
Please order the salad when everyone else is ordering steak. It takes courage, but at the end of the day, whose life are you living, theirs or yours?
Please don’t feel ashamed to reschedule a meet up with a friend because it falls on the same time as your exercise schedule. It’s your body! You have to live with it, not them! And if they are your friends, then they will understand! And hopefully know that you are trying to turn your life around!
Be real with yourself and your surroundings. Don’t be ashamed. After all, you are taking care of the most important person in your life!
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