Are you keeping it a secret?

You want to lose weight. You decide that tomorrow you will start eating healthy and start exercising. You promise yourself that this time you will stick to it. Finally, you decide not to tell anyone about it. Because “what if I fail…”

Does this sound familiar?

It certainly does to me. I have lain in bed Sunday evening vowing to myself that tomorrow will be the day I will change my life! But I also don’t want to tell anyone about it. I imagine 6 months down the road, showing my new body off to friends and family who are amazed. How did I do that? I’d tell them about all the healthy foods and exercise I had done etc. etc.

Then next day I get up and I live my life exactly as I have until now – no change what so ever!

Why? Why do we try to change our life by ourselves and keep it a secret?

Because we are afraid of failure!

If I didn’t tell anyone about my weight loss challenges then I don’t have to be accountable to anyone!

Now, I have learnt! I have learnt that this does not work. Keeping it to yourself does not work! I need support and you need support!

We are trying to change our life! Not just our shoes or bag. No, our freaking LIFE! That’s a big deal!

Losing weight is not about going on a diet and then returning to old habits when you are done. Losing weight happens when you start to change your life. The weight should stay off; therefore your new habits should stay on.

Please don’t lose weight in secret. Chances are if you want to do it in secret, then there are probably some other issues that you need to work around first. Issues that are perhaps more important than the extra weight you are carrying.


Please order the salad when everyone else is ordering steak. It takes courage, but at the end of the day, whose life are you living, theirs or yours?

Please don’t feel ashamed to reschedule a meet up with a friend because it falls on the same time as your exercise schedule. It’s your body! You have to live with it, not them! And if they are your friends, then they will understand! And hopefully know that you are trying to turn your life around!

Be real with yourself and your surroundings. Don’t be ashamed. After all, you are taking care of the most important person in your life!

Please join my Support group on Facebook. It’s amazing to have a community with like-minded people to support each other. See you there 🙂


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Does the shoe fit?

Have you ever tried to be someone you’re not? Maybe you are still trying? How does it feel? Do you feel in line and in balance with yourself? You know, that feeling when you get really frustrated but you don’t know why or what is really going on?

That feeling is probably life telling you that you are trying to be something you are not. Continue reading

Show yourself!

In my last post, I told you about my life as a non-smoker, but what I didn’t tell you is everything I learnt about myself when I finally quit!

I discovered how much I had used cigarettes to hide behind. To hide whom I really was. When I quit I had to learn who to be and how to act in many situations. How could I strike up a conversation without cigarettes? How could I keep a conversation going and not fill the awkward silences with cigarettes? How should I talk on the phone, wait for a bus and how should I finish a dinner without lighting up? What about breaks at work? Oh, and the big one: how to party and enjoy drinks without cigs?

I had to reinvent myself. Who was I when I couldn’t use cigarettes to hide behind? It was very tough, but I did learn so much about myself. And I gained so much confidence, because I understood that I didn’t need to hide behind anything anymore.

You know these inspirational posts on Facebook: be who you are, it is enough? I would nod at them and say: “yes, yes, I know”. But, you know what? I didn’t REALLY get them.

Until now!


I really am enough! I really am amazing. And people who don’t like me the way I am should just scram!

I get it now!

Many people use food in the similar way, including me. When things get tough, we create quite literally a fat layer to keep people at a distance. We hide behind food. I get it! It’s comforting. It doesn’t talk back. It doesn’t expect you to be anything but yourself.

Woman with donut behind her back

I want you to take a deep breath now and imagine a life where you could be yourself at all times, just as you are. To be to the outside world, as you are when you are alone with your food, or your cigarette or whatever “drug” you use to hide behind.

It’s really scary, right?

But it’s also wonderful. It is such a relief. It’s so relaxing to not constantly have to worry about what other people may or may not think of you. To just be. To just do what makes YOU happy! To dress and walk, to smile and laugh, dance and sing, just the way you are!

This is a scary and life changing process and I know that I couldn’t do it alone. Well, you don’t have to! Let me help you. Let me guide you to discover who you really are! Learn how to love yourself and never have to hide again.

Get in touch and tell me about your struggles and what you want to achieve.

Don’t waste another day hiding – show yourself!!

I want to see you!