Should I be punished for leaving?

I finally had my weekend away and boy that was needed. You may remember how tired I was feeling last month and how I hated to be a mother in that moment!

I received so much nice feedback from that blog post that I wanted to give you an update about how it was and how I am feeling. And I sincerely hope you all have booked YOUR time away! Have you?

I came home and was still a little lost the first few days. I didn’t really want to do anything or to think anything. I was very calm. The kids were their usual self but I stayed calm which benefitted them so much. Whenever their father would raise his voice I would take over in my very calm state and solve the situation in a very calm manner. It was great.

I spent some wonderful days in beautiful surroundings with wonderful friends. We talk so much and solved all the worlds’ crises! It was very therapeutic. We spent time in a spa and had nice food and of course lots of drinks!

It was wonderful.

Unfortunately this feeling doesn’t last. After a few days or weeks we go back to being stressed out and start raising our voices again. It is not our fault, this just happens. We get tired, we lose patience, we forget.

This is why it is so important to regularly take time for you. You don’t have to go away every other weekend although you may be thinking that this is what you need to really feel relaxed after years of stress. It doesn’t have to be excessive. Nobody has time or money for that! But you do need to book in some “me-time” from time to time This can be anything that you like doing. Going for a walk, getting a manicure or just a nice conversation with a friend. Anything you want, but you NEED to do it!

We get so lost in all our daily to-do lists because being a parent is a non-stop job! It never stops! Even when they grow up and move out of the house. It just never stops! This is a good thing. This is (hopefully) why we became parents. But you cannot forget yourself in this process.

While I was away I was worried that the kids would “punish” me after I came back. They normally do that. They act out in each their own way. One kid acts out on not wanting to eat anything and the other stops sleeping. This is the way they silently “punish” me for not being around. I was dreading it, but I learnt something truly valuable. This time around I learnt that they are not acting out on me for not being there, they act out on me feeling guilty for leaving them!

Woaw! What a revelation! This time I came back without any guilt. I came back with a refreshed caring mind. I came back with love. I enjoyed myself to the fullest and was recharged!

And guess what. No “punishment” Great!

This just goes to show how important it is for everyone involved that we take care of ourselves. Taking care of yourself is not only for you, but for your kids and for your partner! The kids love seeing this new energized happy mother! And they really enjoyed some time alone with daddy!

Total win win!

Now it’s your turn! No more excuses! Please go book your weekend away or schedule in some me-time. Do it now! Let me know what you come up with in the comments below!

 

Are you a mom? Want to learn how to take better care of yourself?

When we become mothers we are so good at taking care of everyone else and we completely forget ourselves and our needs! This is not about being selfish, this is about not pouring from an empty cup.

When we take care of ourselves we become much better moms, partners, daughters, sisters and workers.

Let me teach you how and grab your free ebook about my journey and what made it all turn around.

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Do you overeat?

I used to overeat all the time. At least once a day I would eat so much that it felt like my stomach was being expanded. For some reason, I would just continue to fill the plate with food and eat. It felt horrible. I would be so uncomfortable afterwards that I wouldn’t be able to stand or sit or lay down. Every time I would promise myself that I wouldn’t do this anymore but as soon as the feeling went away I forgot about it and started over again.

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Why was a treating myself this way? Why was I punishing myself like this?

I remember talking to my partner about it. As you might remember, he is the skinny one I have written about before. He would tell me that he never overate, because it would make him feel sick. I was surprised, because that is how I would feel too, but I did it anyway!

Why was I doing this to myself?

Things started to change when I started loving myself more, really liking and loving myself. The thing is that you would never treat a friend like this, would you? Would you force your best friend to eat until completely stuffed so she would feel incredibly uncomfortable? NO you wouldn’t! So why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we allow ourselves to be treated like this?

I overate again this weekend. We had raclette, you know melted cheese over potatoes, and it was just soooooo yummy. When I had my last bite I felt the familiar expanding of my stomach and I thought “shoot, why didn’t I stop many mouthfuls ago?”. I then remembered that I used to do this to myself ALL the time!! I am happy to report that it had been a while!

With my new found self-love and self-confidence I am now treating my body better. I exercise, I eat healthier, I eat less and I eat more mindfully! All part of treating myself how I deserve to be treated!

If you overeat, then take minute to think about why you do it? I think for me, I was trying to avoid feeling pain or uncertainties by stuffing myself until I felt numb. Don’t do this! Find a way to love your self and treat yourself right and how you deserve to be treated! Life is too short to settle, also with your self!

Love yourself today!!

If YOU need help getting started or need someone to talk to, then DO NOT hesitate to reach out. I am a Health Coach and my mission is to help you feel amazing about yourself, inside and out. If you overeat and want to do something about it, then email me now!

Health Expert Series 1

Everyone has a different opinion about health and what it means to them. I am starting this monthly series to open up the discussion about what health means to you and maybe to learn from other people and their point of views.

This month I am starting with myself. I have interviewed myself and you can find the answers below. Every month I will interview a new person that I think has something interesting to say about health and what it means to them.

I hope you will enjoy this series and will participate in the discussion. Health affects us all, also you! This is a subject you should have an opinion on 😊

Here we go:

 

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Name, age, occupation: Anne Louise, 35, Holistic Health Coach & Boxercise Instructor

What does health mean to you?

Health, to me, means being happy and feeling good about all areas in my life. Everything from eating the right foods and exercising, to having healthy relationships and the right career needs to be in balance before I would call someone truly healthy. I need to be happy with myself on the inside and on the outside

How do you achieve this level of healthy?

I try to eat healthy and exercise regularly. But this is not enough. I constantly work on self-development and try to improve areas in my life that I am not happy about. I clean up my toxic relationships. I find ways to handle stress and to get a good night sleep! If I find that a job or project is draining my energy, then I need to find a way to change it. When you come home from work, you should feel happy and energised! If you feel down and drained, then maybe the job you’re doing is not right for you!

Why is it important to be and live healthily?

I think it’s important to feel good in your body and to be able to live life to its fullest every day. I think too many people settle in life and don’t know that life could be so much better if they changed a few things. I don’t ever want to settle in life. What’s the point of living, if its not going to be a good and happy life?

Finally, I think it’s important to live healthy to prevent disease and aches in the future. We are getting older, and older, but what about quality of life? When I get old I still wish to take care of myself and to be active. In old age, I want to be self-sufficient and I believe by living healthy now I up my chances of that happening.

Why are you an expert?

I started my student career in nursing school and though I quickly found out that this was not my calling, I still learnt a lot about health and disease-care. Thereafter, I studied biotechnology engineering, where my main focus was how nutrition affects the body. In other words, I studied what happens in the body when we eat and when we change what we eat. Finally, I studied Health Coaching, where I learnt over 100 dietary theories and studied the world’s top health and wellness experts. My education has equipped me with extensive, cutting-edge knowledge in holistic nutrition, health coaching, and prevention.

I now work as a Health Coach, where I help my clients find balance in their life and teach about how nutrition and lifestyle affects health and overall wellbeing.

What is your top health tip?

Health can mean so many things and the important thing is to find out what it means to you. How do you feel good in your body and what needs to happen so you become truly happy and well balanced in your life? You are important! Remember that and always be kind to yourself and others!

Do you want to be part of my Health Series? Please email me. I would love to hear from you!